narcissistic personality belongs to individuals who consider themselves superior to everyone else and think they should be admired at all times. However, behind this behavior is hiding someone with great esteem and emotional immaturity.
Greek culture is rich in myths that serve as reference to discuss the conduct of individuals that deviate from the behavior considered normal and healthy.
The legend related to this issue relates to Narciso was a beautiful girl whom everyone admired, but rejected the people who would approach him as it was full of pride and vanity. A nymph, named Eco, in love with this character, was repudiated by him, which caused pain to be consumed to be converted into simple voice (which is the origin, according to mythology, what is known as echo ie, the repetition of a sound).
Thus, a boy who had been despised equally by Narciso asked the gods that he received the punishment of love himself relentlessly. This plea was heard by the goddess Nemesis, who made the handsome young man falls in love with his image when she saw it reflected in a spring. So, unable to stop contemplating and embrace his face, remained there until he died of hunger. Card
Sometimes certain arrogance or presumption attitudes are classified as narcissism, but the reality is that this behavior goes much further, because a person with this type of behavior is extremely important and believes above all others , including his family, couples and friends.
also in great need of being adopted, it considers that deserves admiration and respect, and all those who live together must meet their needs and give special treatment (for example, to forgive their debts). Of course, he likes being the center of attention and conversation.
But this is just the beginning, they are much more the "virtues" of this kind of subjects, including:
Lack of empathy. Not able to take the place of another and share their feelings (be offended if, for example, a friend says he can not go to his party because his mother has just entered the hospital), in addition to being insensitive and distrust of others.
disdains his partner. Cree to be loved unconditionally, as well as being the most important in the life of his loving partner, believing it must be willing to meet all your needs, otherwise, take out your love.
Disclaimer. Know their true personality and loves overrated image of himself, thus denying a depressive state and any trauma that may have occurred. It is common in psychotherapy disavow problem.
Envy. Jealous of what other people have, and you are sure that others aspire to be like him and have their material belongings. Although it is known to prefer logic to feelings, I would be able to step into the shoes of another and retain its affordability.
Arrogance. Easily offended and reacts with anger when criticized, try to destroy or humiliate those who dare to do so, it is common in these circumstances such discussion assemble their preferred partners to agree.
Handling. Because it believes that others are designed to meet their needs do not hesitate to manipulate them and treat them as objects that serve to achieve their goals.
fantasies. Imagine you achieve success, admiration, beauty and power in unlimited amounts, but also aims to strike a perfect love and perfect.
Cree being the best. In the school has the certainty of being superior to their peers and teachers. Emits a high-security image itself, so you can convince others that there is nobody better than him, hence, often get great achievements in their work, although their nature may harm because they do not tolerate that their proposals be rejected and, as he thinks he knows everything, does not care about updated. Ie, emits a lot of excuses before accepting a failure, and prefer not to risk failure.
distorted interpretation. Exaggerate their successes and wins more skills than others to get them, but if things change fails, then blames it on external circumstances and bad luck.
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People who worship the ego actually lack of emotional maturity and self-esteem have diminished, so that they feel their individual value is almost nil but, paradoxically, instead of turning their behavior to be socially accepted hide such feelings and create a fantasy of grandeur and superiority to offset what happens in reality.
Thus, as internally know your ego is false, you need to continually demonstrate the superiority through the approval and praise from people with whom they live. So when it reacts with anger over criticism, and his belief that his personal worth has been threatened and tries to destroy who believes that humiliated him to show that what is said about him is false. Thus, attempts to recover the image to others.
However, little will be worth doing so because, as already explained, a narcissist is emotionally immature, overly concerned for himself and is incapable of thinking in others, do not understand, of course, that each individual has its own needs and aspirations, and freedom to act as they please. Child Ego
true narcissism is normal and even desirable for children, because children need to meet all your needs, and at this stage it is common for those around them ready to serve immediately.
A child, during the process of identity formation, needs to feel admired and recognized by their parents, that is, valued as unique as this will be the basis for the later realize that someone else is entitled to have desires and different needs than others.
This period is critical to discover and trust their own feelings, for which it is crucial that parents respect this and do not try to impose their views. That is, the child wants to be considered unique and important to that from this fact forms a self-identity and not depend on the approval of others.
However, when this need for recognition is thwarted, the child feels special, develop low self-esteem and may even think it is wrong to recognize their qualities.
Thus, reactions to this are various:
can promote dependent nature, focused on meeting the needs of others to get their approval
may be conducive to a dysfunctional personality, namely his ego is inflated to compensate for their lack of self esteem and insecurity. In short, the narcissist seeks approval and admiration he never had, but refuses to recognize this weakness and I choose to build a wonderful and perfect everyone should worship. Correct the path
is recommended that anyone who identifies with this personality type go to a psychologist or psychiatrist to support, through individual and group therapy, be aware of their behavior and modify it for themselves, family and people residing with him daily.
Some studies have concluded that there are factors that help to correct this problem, which are related to achievement, relationships and disappointments.
In principle, we should say that job promotions, graduations, academic or some other type of recognition is beneficial to understand what the narcissist competition is a realistic and, ultimately, lower their fantasies of grandeur.
also maintain a stable relationship is usually helpful for this type of person, so in principle difficult, since it requires someone who is balanced, confident and to be accepted as it is, of course, also must understand that their behavior will not change immediately.
Finally, it is necessary that narcissists are facing disappointments of all kinds, experiences that will serve to find emotional balance. For example, an individual who is used to obtain the best school grades may encounter, at some point in their life, with people of high intelligence and preparation and get mediocre grades in relation to that group, which will force him to make an adjustment in the perception of itself. However, for this to happen, the disappointment must be on par with the achievements, otherwise referred failure can lead even to aggravate his narcissism.
How to treat the narcissistic
If you must live with a narcissist will be useful the following tips:
is advisable not to relate emotionally to someone like that, because the need to feel superior attitudes can lead to insensitivity, arrogance and pedantry. In any case, we should attempt to take awareness of the problem and not let what you say affect you.
not try to change it, probably only make them angry, so think it is easier to modify their behavior than the narcissist.
is clear that an individual of this class wants to be always the center of attention and feel important, which can be very annoying for the others, but you have a little patience and, occasionally, hear stories about of his great achievements or say something to praise him. Remember that in the background create a worthless person and unworthy of being loved for herself, so much help show that this is not true. Hardly a narcissist
worry about the problems of others, so it is better to maintain a superficial relationship. If, for example, you feel worried or depressed and want to share their experiences with one of these people is very likely that he did not like the idea and refuse to listen to any confidentiality of this nature. Therefore, in these cases, you'd better find someone more receptive and not fall into the temptation of relaxing in a self-centered.
So, it's not bad that we face life with confidence and we are proud to have the self-esteem necessary to achieve our goals, if we do not fall into the excesses which have been described, it should be understood that a narcissistic self-condemnation social isolation and rejection.
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