Those who feel anxious need to be accepted, often fall into the error of decorating their own be looking to make an impression on others. This reflects the insecurity of the individual, which requires simple effort to overcome it, we can help you take a first step.
You may agree with the following: as part of personal development, it is reasonable and positive one views do things to please others. However, there are many people that, even understood as transcendental opinion aroused in others, do not know how to win affection, kindness and affection of men around them.
The problem takes bigger dimensions when such individuals seek to seduce their fellows to obtain love, recognition, support and respect the environment by launching a sort of decoy for an answer, which is not always expected and instead there indifference or, worse, contempt. So failure is attributed to misunderstanding of the other or its low sensitivity to appreciate the virtues of the person concerned.
According to English psychologist Margaret Pascual, is indicated how to measure the intensity of our own attitudes towards interaction with others, not to seem intrusive or manipulative, or otherwise, be described as proud and arrogant when you've made the decision to show extremely quiet, because all you do is hide the insecurity. The specialist referred
another example of what often occurs is that of who is getting the respect of others putting in the forefront of action to show their ability and intelligence, with the obvious risk of becoming a great tyrant things will only get submitted or enmities.
Be as you are
It is proven that people who show spontaneous and relaxed created an aura around him in admiration, respect and affection, without imitating behavior. Let us pause to think about the following aspects of our personality:
personal appearance. We really care about our appearance, as it is our calling card. Keep in mind that there are costumes and accessories, which can cause negative reactions in some people. Therefore, we adapt our options, preferences and aesthetic possibilities to the impression that we cause. Take your time and attention to hygiene and personal care, because good body image enhances personal safety and opens doors social acceptance.
attitude towards life. It is another aspect as important as above, as pessimism, distrust, intolerance, self-reliance or self-centeredness not only do not like anyone, but that should not be housing them within us. Check your state of mind and control your feelings and emotions, to not interfere in their relationships with others.
Vigílese. Do not overwhelm others with what they have or have concerns, share problems does not mean endorsed to others. Do not interpret the thoughts of others, or try to guess, is likely to be wrong. Manage silences, but not to think about their things, but to show respect and interest the feelings of the other.
Tolerance. To be liked nothing better than to love others, listen, respect their feelings and be in place. Respect for those who think and act differently to ours helps us to have better picture. Learn to listen to the other person to feel accompanied and understood, ask questions.
self-confidence. Think of being as it really may entail some difficulties and has the right to make mistakes, to say differently from others, to change their mind and protest when receiving unfair treatment. It's good to have attitudes and thoughts that have to learning. Security
. Show yourself making sure, for example, using tone of voice and firm or looking to face the speaker. In discussions avoid using messages that are downloaded to the other the responsibility or blame for the conflict. Dare to use the statement "I", stating the respects in which it has failed, displaying self-criticism. Open
. Ask what you do not know, without fear of ridicule or passing by the ignorant, so we help others feel important and useful. Those who know say that the more intelligent and attractive is a person, more questions and listen.
Opin. Do not tell anyone what to do or give advice, it puts you in a position of power that ends up not liking. When I asked for advice, just opine and help the other person to find the answer.
Finally, do not play to become the sympathetic.
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The easiest way to succeed in all aspects is people becoming more open, tolerant and interested in what happens to others. Note that the maximum satisfaction of a person is to look inward and feel good, according to his way of being, thinking and behaving, the rest will come easily.
Finally, remember that an individual's hard to be loved and appreciated by all, recognized as a sincere, positive, genuine, cheerful, communicative and responsive, but can be highly valued by those around us without our personnel meet these characteristics as close to excellence.
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